
For those of you with Cancer, PLEASE read this article in the spirit in which it was written. That is, to highlight the extraordinary “Breast Cancer Awareness” movement built by the various Breast Cancer organizations as a “model” for similar Charitable/Awareness Crohn’s Disease programs. I am particularly impressed with the Breast Cancer organizations and their October-long highly visible affiliation with the National Football League (“NFL”). I am not in any way comparing the suffering of a Breast Cancer patient to that of a Crohn’s Disease patient. I’m just getting tired of suffering terribly as a 25+year Crohn’s Disease patient only to see late-night cable television commercials cast a “Crohn’s Disease embarrassment” stigma to the illness. Yes, the National Crohn’s & Colitis Foundation (“CCFA”) organization and the State and International CCFA Chapters do a great job at various “grass roots” fund-raising and support Initiatives but the mainstream education about Crohn’s Disease has not been successful as evidenced by so many intelligent people still not having a clue about its physical, mental, financial, professional, social, emotional and familial effects or about the pervasive nature of Crohn’s Disease.
I’m sure the hard-working and dedicated CCFA people around the world will criticize me for this article but I am merely reporting (and commenting on) the truth. (Please note that it has been my experience that the CCFA Chapters around the world offer fantastic fund-raising and support assistance. My criticism is limited to the more-corporate-minded folks who are trying to expand the world’s understanding of Crohn’s Disease such that they can attract additional funding for Research, Education, Support, etc.) I know it is expensive and difficult to create effective mainstream television commercials to raise awareness about an illness but I believe money is being wasted on the Crohn’s cable television Spots that are created and aired at 3 AM because their focus is on the wrong aspect of Crohn’s Disease. More specifically, these commercials paint afflicted patients as helpless victims of some mysterious illness, namely, Crohn’s Disease, which can strike at any time and then return to make life unmanageable. Given the extraordinary people who battle Crohn’s Disease every day who nevertheless go on to accomplish their goals and in doing so utilizing their senses of humor and pure grit to cope with Crohn’s, I therefore resent this “pity approach” being taken by these advertising campaigns. Let’s educate by celebrating these people instead of by scaring the general public about a dark, painful, unpredictable and bathroom-messy disease.
Instead, I wish these commercials would focus more on WHAT Crohn’s Disease IS and how different people SUCCESSFULLY MANAGE IT rather than on almost unthinkable doomsday scenario images which understandably elicit life-interrupting or life-changing thoughts like:
“Might I have to take a crap in the middle of a meeting at my corporate job?”
“Should I turn down those tickets to the Yankees-Red Sox Playoff Game because the Yankee Stadium bathrooms are disgusting?”
“When my farts stink up the area my friends and I are hanging out at during the outdoor Tom Petty & the Heartbreakers concert – should I go along with everyone else and complain about the smell or do I cop to it?”
“Should I try and go to law school or is it a waste of my time because my Crohn’s Disease will unpredictably hospitalize me so many times during the three (3) years of law school that I’d never even graduate?”
“After being diagnosed with Crohn’s Disease, how do I re-write my ‘Life Plan’ in terms of which career to pursue?”
“What happens if my Crohn’s Disease gets worse, how will I afford Health Insurance?”
“When should I tell my new girlfriend that my excuses for LONG bathroom visits are not because I ran into an old college fraternity buddy along the way?”
“When do I tell my new employer?” “Do I even tell my new employer?”
“How can I travel and leave myself vulnerable to disgusting public toilets?”
“What if I have an emergency while sight-seeing, where are the public toilets?”
I joke about these different almost “unthinkable” scenarios (and YES, the Fart at the Tom Petty outdoor concert has happened to me on more than one occasion and as long as the Fart is silent, I recommend the “go with the flow” approach and complain about the smell) even though there is a great deal of truth to any smart person with Crohn’s Disease having to contemplate these types of questions at one time or another. However, Crohn’s Disease and Inflammatory Bowel Disease (“IBD”) patients usually find a way around these “challenging” situations and the results are some VERY special and mentally tough children and adults. (Note: The acronym “IBD” is often used as a catch-all term for all “inflammatory” bowel diseases such as Crohn’s Disease and Ulcerative Colitis). These children and adult patients also develop sharp senses of perspective and humor simply because they must in order to cope with the nuances of their disease. Therefore, mainstream television commercials about Crohn’s Disease/IBD should focus more on these brave patients/people and how they overcome the daily adversity they must face in order to live a relatively normal Life.
Nobody likes talking about “going to the bathroom” but that, unfortunately, is often a major part of having Crohn’s Disease. Often losing a Breast is, unfortunately, a part of having Breast Cancer and that is also an uncomfortable topic to discuss. Yet, somehow openly discussing the ravages of Breast Cancer has been more readily accepted by the mainstream than conversing in anything regarding Crohn’s Disease. I think that is because of the wonderful educational and awareness work of the well-organized different Breast Cancer Charitable Organizations. To that end, I am only pointing out that analogous Crohn’s Disease Charitable Organizations could learn a lot from them.
In terms of Breast Cancer and the NFL, October is National Breast Cancer Awareness Month and being caught up in my own medical battle which presently includes undergoing Chemotherapy Treatment, I only became aware of this while watching the NFL this past Sunday. The NFL is only one (1) of MANY mainstream corporate sponsors who participate in what is an extremely well-run and effective charitable endeavor by these Breast Cancer Organizations. Watching NFL Football Games and seeing the players all wearing PINK-colored Uniform apparel parts, in and of itself, demonstrates the influence and creativeness of these Breast Cancer Charities as the style-minded Machismo NFL players would never be caught donning pink clothes unless they were ready to be ridiculed by their fellow NFL players for “coming out of the closet.” Perhaps this is not politically correct to say as there is nothing wrong with men wearing pink, homosexuality or with the implication of the color pink and homosexuality, but the NFL is a collection of the most “Manly” men in the world so that “pink” perception could be a problem. But, the NFL Pink Campaign is extremely impressive, when you think about it, as these Macho Men are doing this to HELP A CAUSE that affects SO MANY WOMEN.
Additionally, kudos to the Breast Cancer corporate folks for sticking with their pink logo colors even within such a macho culture. This is along the lines of what I mean by the Crohn’s Disease folks having a little fun with its “bathroom illness” Stigma simply for “entertainment” and educational purposes. A little creativity and humor would go a long way toward attracting people toward wanting to LEARN ABOUT CROHN’S DISEASE. (This lack of Mainstream Awareness with Crohn’s Disease also manifests itself as a Crohn’s Disease Patient problem because as you will see from the below “mock” conversations, it is hard to suffer so much from an illness that perhaps even your best friend has never even heard of. Moreover, when I recently applied for certain medical-related Federal Benefits and tried to explain my various Crohn’s Disease-related debilitating issues, the nice Information “In-Take” woman stared at me with a blank look as if I were telling her about some rare disease I picked up while on safari in Africa with Angelina Jolie and Brad Pitt. Suffice it to say, Mainstream Awareness runs deep and it is an issue that needs more attention directed at it by the dedicated folks who work at trying to help people like myself with Crohn’s Disease. My contribution to that cause are “articles” like these, my Blog and my tireless efforts at helping Crohn’s Disease people who frequent the same Health Care Social Media Platforms as I do. However, I am severely handicapped by my illness so ….)
Besides savvy corporate partnerships like that with the NFL, the public’s awareness that every October is National Breast Cancer Awareness Month attracts a wide, and thus diversified, array of potential charitable Breast Cancer partners and programs. By way of example, yesterday morning I read the following on the Web regarding a “New Media” Breast Cancer charitable program between Susan G. Komen for the Cure® (i.e., one of the most widely known, largest and best-funded Breast Cancer organization in the United States) and Playboy that makes so much sense I am surprised other charities have not done this before given the consistent and worldwide allure of beautiful women and Playboy’s need to always further “corporatize” and maintain their mainstream reputation:
Playboy Enterprises, Inc. is pledging to donate 10 cents to Susan G. Komen for the Cure® for every new Twitter follower it receives during the month of October. Each time a Twitter user follows Playboy at @playboy, the company will make a 10 cents donation to the Bunnies for the Cure Team – a group of more than 15 Playmates that will participate in the Race for the Cure in Los Angeles on March 24, 2012.
I could go on and on about the innovative, efficient and effective manner in which money and awareness are raised by Breast Cancer Organizations, but I’m more interested in learning what can be done for Crohn’s Disease to accomplish these same goals. In that regard, let me briefly convey the roughest “Awareness Hurdle” Crohn’s Disease faces by comparing the following two (2) mock conversations between two (2) friends at lunch. Scenario One (1) is a lunch restaurant setting between best friends Francine and Lisa, after Lisa comes from a doctor’s appointment in which she is diagnosed with Breast Cancer. Lisa’s husband is Andrew. Scenario Two (2) is the same lunch restaurant setting between best friends Richard and Michael after Michael comes from a doctor’s appointment in which he is diagnosed with Crohn’s Disease:
Scenario 1
“Francine, I don’t know how to even share this news with you but I have just been diagnosed with Breast Cancer by Doctor Shapiro. That’s why I was late getting here as I had to be consoled by Andrew who was cool enough to come with me to what I thought was going to be a routine appointment. In fact, it was Andrew who stopped me from cancelling our lunch when he pointed out that you might be the best person for me to spend time with after such a life-changing event. I am lucky to have such a cool and supportive husband.”
“Oh my God,” Lisa replies, “How far along is it, will you need surgery, chemo and radiation? Before you answer, I just want you to know that I will be there for you at every step along the way, whenever you want. With the support of Andrew and all of your friends rallying around you, YOU WILL get through this.”
“That’s wonderful to hear, Francine, but I gotta tell you that I’m scared. I asked all those questions you asked me and the doctors don’t know yet as I must go for more tests the day after tomorrow. I’m also going for the obligatory Second Opinion”
Francine puts her arms across the table reaching out for Lisa’s and she holds them tenderly as a sign of support and acknowledgement. This embrace of sorts goes on just a little too long as people in the restaurant are starting to look so Lisa gives Francine a look of emotional appreciation and the two women resume their lunches never forgetting about the “elephant in the room” called Breast Cancer.
Scenario 2
“Rich, how’s the wife and kids? I’ll bet your Son can already beat me in basketball?”
“Michael, my Daughter can beat you in basketball! Thanks for asking, though, everyone is fine.”
The waiter comes over to take their orders for lunch but Michael waives him off as if he is not done talking to Rich yet. Rich’s attention hasn’t left the over-sized menu when Michael says, “Rich, I gotta tell ya’ somethin’ that happened to me this morning.” Michael takes a long Pause which gets Rich’s attention. “You know those intense stomach pains I always complain about and how sometimes exhaustion overtakes me out of nowhere?”
Rich, sensing Michael’s seriousness tries to lighten the mood a bit. “Mike, anyone who is friends with you knows about your stomach ‘issues’ as we’ve all had our Plumber on speed dial ever since we bought houses and you started visiting when you moved back from California.”
“Very funny Rich. But this is serious. After undergoing several tests and something this morning called a ‘Small Bowel GI Series,’ my Doctor told me that I have ‘Crohn’s Disease.’ I’d never heard of it before but he said it is an ‘auto-immune illness’ which can exacerbate and become very serious. However, it also is a disease with a ‘broad spectrum’ so I may never get sicker than I am – but I’m worried. The pain is getting more intense and every once in a while the cramps are so bad that it feels like I am going through, what I can only explain as Child Birth Labor, as the Cramps can last for HOURS until I have a bowel movement. And ‘auto-immune,’ I have no idea what that means in everyday life.”
Rich, not exactly “Mr. Sensitive,” listened intently to ever word Michael said but then, as is his nature, uses humor to cope with the seriousness of the moment. “I’m goin’ with the Bacon Burger. You’ve eaten here before, what are you ordering?”
“Rich, I’m serious, I am very worried about this diagnosis of ‘Crohn’s Disease,’ what should I do?”
“Michael, I wasn’t tuning you out, I heard everything you said. It sounds like you now have the perfect excuse to tell women when the smell of your Farts makes them WILT! Seriously, ‘Croowns Disease’ is something I never heard of – so I’m sure it can’t be too bad. You will be fine.” (Underline is for effect)
The guys drop the medical conversation and continue to a lunch of laughs. There is no “elephant in the room.”
This “Awareness Hurdle” is something I come across almost every time I am asked about my Disability. People whom I have met either socially, professionally or personally, simply don’t “get” how a 48-year old athletic looking man can get so sick and be so disabled from some “disease” they have never heard of and probably cannot spell correctly!!! Life is too short so I no longer even try to explain it as my latest medical problems are so serious that they have finally helped me overcome this Awareness Hurdle as the word “Chemotherapy” conjures up a certain image that is as serious as Life gets. The phrase “Breast Cancer” also conjures up a specific Serious image which people all around the world respect and respond to.
What image does “Crohn’s Disease” conjure up? Therein lies the rub.